Failure*Success by Khori Mitchell
FAILURE-SUCCESS…The students were challenged to consider the interaction of these two fundamental realities of life.
KHORI…uses her very mixed feelings over the loss of a special family member to remind us all that in order to help others you must first be able to help yourself.
Failure*Success
The definition of failure is the lack of success. Throughout my life I’ve experienced many different forms of failure. I’ve always been the type of person who believed that everyone can change, even when they fail. I thought I was a prime example. If I can fail and keep trying, then surely everyone can, right?
No, I was wrong. Last year I was a freshman, and I’m sure everyone knows that, when you’re a freshman, you have to show an enormous amount of perseverance. I expected everyone around me to show the same amount of perseverance ,and this unfortunately led to my demise.
I had a family member that passed away from drug use last year,and I felt the failure she inflicted on herself ,and the rest of the family. As a kid, I would often see her in a lot of pain. Pain from losing her closest family members from old age ,and pain from her own failure to stop using drugs. I remember always being in her room, and asking her questions of what she used to be like, how she used to act, and all of her regrets. It’s still hard for me to acknowledge the fact that she’s actually gone.
During her funeral, I was so angry that she failed. How could she? How could she choose a substance over her own family? Were we not important to her? If only we could’ve helped.. If only we didn’t fail to get her the help she truly needed. She would still be here today. I was so angry at the fact that she failed. It made me forget her success… The person she was before she started to use drugs.
Looking back I think she always got less than what she deserved ,and this led to her drug use even more. She was the type of person to give more than what she had. She often gave so much that she never had anything left for herself.
This truly scares me because I believe that I share the same traits as she did. I think I often show too much empathy to the point where I would choose someone else’s happiness over my very own. This is a trait that I’m currently working on ,because I know from experience that this trait often leads to failure. I also know that in order to help other people, you have to be able to help yourself. “You can’t pour into anything or anybody from an empty cup”. I think about this a lot. Will this trait truly lead to my failure or my success? Will I be able to show empathy ,and show that I care for others ,while also caring for myself? Or will I let everyone else’s needs contribute to my failure and end up just like her.
Khori Mitchell
10/3/25